First off, if you are unwilling to call yourselves Americans, how do you expect Americans (who come from all other countries) to accept you? really.
But mainly. if you want to be respected you folks have got to stop electing morons like Sheila Jackson Lee, or Hank Johnson, or Corinne Brown, and we could add many more to the list.
Just stop. There are some fine intelligent black folks who could do some good in this country from a position of power. Find them. Convince them to run. Elect them.